5 Ways to Cope with Infertility

Millions of people are told that they may not be able to conceive a child naturally every year, but when you are the couple trying to conceive, it can feel like you are the only people in the world who are dealing with the issue. It is important to realize not only that you are not alone but that there is hope in your journey to becoming parents. There are several options available today, from reproductive assistance to adoption, but before you can begin to make a plan, you need to ensure you are coping with the physical and emotional strain that infertility can bring. Here are five ways to cope in the face of infertility and move forward. 

1. Be honest about your feelings

Do not try to ignore your feelings. It is common for people to feel grief and intense despair when faced with the idea that they may never be able to conceive naturally, and denying those emotions will only cause deeper and more prolonged pain. Find a way for both you and your partner to express your emotions honestly and in a healthy way. Click here for tips on communication with your partner. 

2. Understand the options available to you

One of the biggest sources of distress is likely to be confusion about your next steps and feelings of hopelessness. This is why it is so important to understand the options available to you that might help you become parents. When you have a clearer picture of possible futures, you can start to focus on the positives and consider which route could work for you. Whether you choose to consult with the best fertility doctors in St Louis, pursue adoption, or any other outcome, you can start to move forward. 

3. Find a support group and/or counselor 

You may have friends and family members offering advice or words of consolation, but unless they have been through infertility, they are unlikely to understand what you are struggling with. However, there are support groups for women, men, and couples who are facing infertility where you can meet others who share your experiences. Alternatively, an experienced and licensed counselor may be able to help you and your partner work through your emotions in a healthy way and explore your options. 

4. Practice self-care

Dealing with infertility can bring stress, anxiety, disappointment, and bogus feelings of inadequacy. Left to fester, this can have a significant impact on your mental and physical health. Take the time to focus on yourself and what helps you to relax or feel more positive. For example, taking walks in nature or writing in a journal can help people to process their thoughts, while other people find exercising, spending time with friends or family, or indulging in a favorite hobby to be a welcome distraction. 

5. Rekindle intimacy and romance with your partner

When you have been trying to conceive a baby for a long time, it can make physical intimacy seem like a practical exercise. When you combine this with the stress and continued disappointment of not being able to conceive, it can create a distance between you and your partner. Try to bring the intimacy back into your relationship that does not involve trying to conceive. This might include sex to express your love for each other, giving each other massages to relieve stress and tension, or organizing romantic dates or a trip, buying them a gift, or simply being more physically affectionate by holding hands or hugging. 

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